What Approaches are Used for Couples Counselling?

Relationships can be both deeply fulfilling and incredibly challenging. Many couples seek therapy to improve communication, resolve conflicts, rebuild trust, or strengthen their emotional bond. Couples counselling provides a supportive space where partners can work through difficulties with the guidance of a trained therapist.

Different Approaches to Couples Counselling

There are several evidence-based approaches to couples therapy, each designed to address different relationship dynamics and challenges. Below, we explore some of the most effective methods.

The Gottman Method

The Gottman Method, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, is based on over four decades of research. It focuses on strengthening relationships by fostering friendship, managing conflict effectively, and creating shared meaning. The approach includes structured assessments and practical interventions to improve communication and emotional connection.

Best for:

• Couples struggling with communication breakdowns

• Partners wanting to strengthen their friendship and emotional intimacy

• Managing perpetual conflicts in a constructive way

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, is rooted in attachment theory and focuses on building a secure emotional bond between partners. EFT helps couples recognize and shift negative interaction patterns, fostering deeper emotional connection and security.

Best for:

• Couples experiencing emotional distance or disconnection

• High-conflict relationships

• Couples dealing with attachment wounds or trust issues

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, explores the different "parts" within each individual that influence their thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. In couples therapy, IFS helps partners understand how their inner worlds impact their relationships and encourages healing through self-awareness and compassion.

Best for:

• Couples where one or both partners experience trauma or emotional triggers

• Individuals wanting to deepen self-awareness in their relationship

• Managing emotional reactivity and self-protection mechanisms

Attachment-Based Therapy

Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early attachment experiences shape adult relationships. This approach helps couples identify attachment styles, recognize emotional needs, and foster secure connections through improved communication and responsiveness.

Best for:

• Couples dealing with trust issues

• Individuals struggling with fear of abandonment or emotional avoidance

• Deepening emotional intimacy and security in the relationship

How To Decide What Approach Is Best For Your Relationship?

Choosing the right therapeutic approach depends on your relationship dynamics, challenges, and personal preferences. A qualified therapist can assess your needs and guide you toward the most effective method. If you’re unsure which approach fits best, consider scheduling an initial consultation to explore your options.

Get Started with Couples Counselling in Fort Langley

If you and your partner are ready to invest in your relationship, our experienced therapists are here to support you. Getting started is simple:

1. Explore our couples therapy options.

2. Call our Front Desk care team and book a free 20-minute consultation with one of our couples therapists.

3. Begin your journey toward a stronger, healthier relationship.